Letting Down Your Guard

How do you let down your guard with someone who is always finding fault in everything you say or do? When your happy to see them or talk to them, they have this look on their face like your making them sick or unhappy or your not the person they want to see or be with. No matter how hard you try to be supportive or loving or giving, its never enough. If you mention what you like or want then your asking for too much or they get angry with you. Then its thrown back in your face and used against you. What do you do to show this person that they mean alot to you and that you would never do anything to hurt them or betray them, but in the process there hurting you and making you feel like your feelings don't matter or that you don't even mean anything to them. I know matters of the heart and sexual nature can be complicated, but it can also be very beautiful,powerful and special. When you know this person has feelings for you, but instead of letting down their guard or just showing or telling you, they pick fights with you, hold back emotion, or fuss about petty stuff that doesn't matter. Your at fault too because you get upset at times due to their behavior and lack of care towards you and you question whether or not their being honest with you or if they even notice your there. When your not allowed to even have a conversation with them on the phone only thru text, but you know that they talk to others all the time on the phone, but never you and that shit really hurts. You don't understand why they act like they hate you or like you did something wrong, or when they compare you to others they have been with. You know in your heart your nothing like the women they have been with and they know that too! It's suppose to be easy, fun, and some bumps in the road,but not boulders. You know that there worth the fuss and the sex is truly amazing,you just wish they would at least show that they care about you or at least tell you. Having to wonder or always feel like you did something wrong when you know you haven't is insane. Understanding that they have been hurt and disappointed by others, you try to be patient and allow them to vent their frustrations and be them, but they rarely allow you to be you. The smile that you have on your face when u see them, is never returned and the excitement that you feel you don't see it or feel it when there near. We all have problems and things happening in our life that can cause us to feel like were not loved or wanted or we have been hurt so bad that we put up this wall. Sometimes we have to realize when we have someone that cares for us and stop always pushing them away or making them feel like they did something wrong. You see them, you hear them, and you know that their hear, but you want them to be there for you too even in the smallest matters. They mean alot to you, but your still unsure of how much or what role they play in your heart because you haven't let down your guard just yet either. They scare you in a good way and they scare you in a bad way. In the end they mean more to you than you ever expected or wanted and it has nothing to do with the sex. When you look at them or into their eyes you can see the pain, the hurt, and the fact that they have love and care and compassion in their hearts. But, they have been hurt just like you have been hurt. You know you would do anything to make them happy and you would never do anything to betray them or hurt them ever. You just wish they knew it and trusted you when you said it and let you in and stop picking fights and just admit they like you and stop fighting it. So, you guys can get back to having fun and enjoying one another.