Sugar Daddy! Do You Have One?

Sugar Daddy- A man who pays your bills and takes care of you that maybe older and gets a piece every now and then from you; But, isn't your man at all.Now there are many of us women who have themselves a Sugar Daddy and he truly knows his place and he takes care of all your needs. I mean you need your car fixed, gas bill paid, cable paid, spending money, your kids need clothes and he is their like Sugar Daddy is suppose to be. All you have to do is break him off every now and again and your set for several months. Sugar Daddy is what we woman call our Super Man that has his own place, own car and doesn't need you to live with, drop his ass off anywhere, and when you call he is already there with cash or plastic on deck and ready to save the day! He doesn't give you any drama, he causes no stress, he treats you like a Queen and you and him both understand and except the dynamics of your relationship. It's a give and take and everyone is very pleased and happy. Your friends, your family members, and co-workers may not understand and to that I say damn them. Do not, I repeat do not let them mess up your relationship with your Sugar Daddy! Because it's hard to find another Sugar Daddy that's taking care of you and your household the way he is. Now, unless they are going to take his place, tell those nosey hens to stay in their hen house and leave your happy arrangement alone! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Playing Games!

Well as the title states, then maybe you can relate. What do you do when a person is into playing games? I mean they say they want to spend time with you or you ask them to hangout and they have every excuse why they can't be with you.Then when you call them on it, they reassure you that it's not like that and they were just busy! I mean okay, this person will text you for hours and talk to you about anything sex related or ask you 101 questions, but the minute you get them on the phone they have nothing to say and they want to be in control of the conversation as far as what you can ask them or what they are willing to talk about. What do you do when you ask this person a question and they don't answer it and you have to ask the question at least three more times, before they answer you. Who in the hell does bullshit like that. It makes you wonder if they are mentally stable or not? But, at the end of all the games they have played they are still insisting that they want to spend time with you and that they are just busy and it's not because of their sex buddy or that their not into you, they are just busy sometimes. I think that you should move on and count your blessings or if you think this person is really worth it, get them in a corner and lay it all out on the table and let them know where you stand and if they want to be a part of your world they need to start showing it or your moving on to greener pastures. Besides their are plenty of more fish in the see, why waste your time on dead one! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Art of Relaxing!

Relaxing- To rest and take things easy, to become less stressed. Being able to relax and enjoy yourself is the best comfort there probably is. I mean your able to escape to that special place or private getaway, by yourself, with your friends, or with that special someone. You can get a spa treatment, massage, going swimming, skiing, take a cruise, fly around the world or even turn your home into your own private getaway. You can light candles, open a bottle of nice wine, run a hot relaxing bath, some soft music, and top it off with someone to wash your body for you and rub you up and down just right! Then again if your alone, you can just do it all yourself. Relaxing means so many different things to so many people. Some people relax by cleaning their house, doing yard work,working on their car, playing golf or sports of some kind, and others do some form of work. Whatever your technique to relaxing is, do your best to enjoy yourself and have a good time and live a little. And hey, if you chose to do nothing but lay around then you have done your part in the method to relaxing! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Letting Your Guard Down!

Every now and then you come across a person who makes you forget your past. I mean they make you forget the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, and the fact that you no longer trust when it comes to matters of the heart! He or she makes you let down your guard and let go of those walls you have built up between you and the world of love and the game of trust. They put this smile upon your face and a song in your heart, and a pep in your step! You find yourself smiling for no reason and thinking happy and dirty thoughts all at the same time, because for the first time you are beginning to trust again and to fall for this person who has brought you so much joy. Once those guards come down you are able to be free of all the bad things and the bad thoughts and even though you know there is a chance of it happening again, this person has made you want to take the risk, and step out on faith and shout it to the world that you have found yourself and love again. You have been given another chance and there is no way your going to mess it up by keeping those guards up or by stopping love from entering your heart! You are now ready and able and willing to break free and live again and love to the fullest. It just takes that one special person and before you know it your guard has been taken away and placed back on it's shelf where it belongs. Live , Love, Trust, & Enjoy Life. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Happy Monday's!

Monday's are sometimes the worst days! They start off the beginning of the work week and no one ever looks forward to that! I mean it symbolizes that the weekend is over and that we must return to our life of punching a clock, or having someone watch over us, or hell returning to a job where we can't stand the people we work with and they get on our damn nerves! I mean Monday's are seen as the worst, but I look at Monday's as the beginning of my work week and knowing that if I make it through this day then it will be down hill from here. I mean think about It. Monday is making it through, Wednesday is getting over the hump, and Friday means we made it through. So, next time try looking at Monday's as "Happy Monday's". If, you think about it in a positive way it really can be a happy day. This is what I like to call being positive or having happy thoughts, for some it works and for others it is a up hill battle daily to to be a positive person inside and out. So, I say to all of you try taking the high road and learn to be more upbeat and a little less uptight! Random Yours, Raven Storm

Because

I know that you are with me in the night, even in my most trying times.
Because you show me that there is no greater joy or love than that which comes from you.
Knowing how and why you care the way that you do for me, makes me feel so safe and secure inside.
I realize that even when I am being impossible or off in my own world,
your there to catch me when I fall or stumble.
Because you are who you are, I know that in your eyes I shine brightly and
that our time together is special.
It's because of you that I know what real love means and how I'm suppose to be treated.
Because of you I know my worth in gold and no one can take that away from me.
It's because of you that I wake up with a smile on my face and joy in my heart!
Because you let me be me from the start.

Lies and Secrets!

Lies- untruths or made up information or facts; Secrets-information that you wish for no one to know or a set few about your most intimate thoughts or feelings and actions. With that being said many of us have told so many lies, that we don't even know when were telling the truth or not. I mean face it, we lie about why were late, why were out, who we were with, our name, phone number, pretty much anything! Sometimes, there are reasons for lying and lots of times it's better to just tell the truth. But, how many of us would listen to the truth or really want to hear it. If, your friends told you that you were a control freak, or that you throw yourself at men, would you really want to hear that truth? Or is it better when they say you just like order or a routine and that there's nothing wrong with approaching a man first. How about men, would you rather hear her say that you are the best in the bedroom or that she's had better and going to get a paps smear had more feeling or sensation than you. Or, how about your boys saying living at home with your mom is cool at the age of 27, when they really mean your lazy ass should be ashamed and you shouldn't tell anybody that you still live at home with mommy. I mean those are considered nice lies.Then there are secrets that we want to take to the grave and yet we some how manage to tell at least one person. We let this person in on some of the juiciest details and our most private indiscretions and yet we hope that they tell no one. Secrets can be small or big and they can be harmless or detrimental to your inner and outer self. I say if you have any secrets, it's best to take them to your grave and tell no one. Now, if you decide that you can't keep it to yourself, please make sure that they are someone near and dear and that you can really trust them. Now, one thing we must know is that lies and secrets have a way of catching up with us all so be very careful what you do, what you say and who sees and hears you.Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The HangOver!!

What is it about going out and getting totally screwed up that seems fun at the moment, until the Hangover hits you? Well, I had the best time in a long while the other nite and I was on cloud nine. I meet one of my college friends, from when I first started going and I danced the nite away. Now, I went with my best friend and her cousin and the new Caucasian persuasion in her life and he was cool! Not to mention he bought all the drinks. I mean I had 3 shots of something really nice and it was really, really good.But, of course while I was dancing the nite away and being hit on, I didn't realize how truly hungover I was. Well, by the time I got home and woke up at 12 in the afternoon the next day, I was still really hungover and I decided to babysit and realizing that I was calling the kids by the wrong name, made me realize that I was still hungover! I mean damn, it was going on 5pm and my mind and thoughts were still scrambled and I made the decision that I will no longer do that many shots, nor will I babysit when I know damn well I can't remember the kids names. And "FYI" texting and calling people while hungover is not a wise decision. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Education: What Are Kids Really Learning!

In today's society there are so many kids that can't read, write, do simple math, or complete sentences, yet alone speak English. As an educator your required to be mother, father, counselor, priest, and friend to kids who would rather curse you out, skip class, do drugs or drop out all together. I mean think about it, since when did we start allowing kids to come to school dressing like hookers, pimps, thugs, not being able to speak English, wearing ankle monitoring bracelets, and kids who are 21 years old. Meaning that their over grown ass should be in someones military, job placement program, night school, or college. Parents want you to fix their children and teach them, but what happens when your child doesn't want to learn and if they cuss you out and refuse to listen to you, do you think that they are really going to let their teacher tell them what to do? Some teachers are able to reach these kids and save them from themselves, but so many fall through the cracks. Teacher's are being forced or pressured to have kids memorize answers for the CRCT and if the kids don't pass that's your job! Why aren't the parents being held accountable? When I was in school, you got homework with examples and you could bring the book home. Parents checked your homework and teacher's made sure you knew what you were doing. Now a days some teachers are just in it for a paycheck and to pay off their student loans. Parents can't help because they either can't read, can't write, or they work to many jobs and they see it as the teachers job and not theirs. It takes a village to raise a child and if you want your child to be successful, you need to take a more active role in their education and their future. It's not just the teachers job, it's your job and your God given duty to prepare your child for success and the real world. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Therapy: Breaking Down the Walls!

Often times as people we go through things that you could only read or hear about in stories or on the news. Some of us have had or have lived lives that would make you cringe, scare you to death, or even sick to your stomach! Therapy for those of us who are willing to get the help can be very useful and can bring all that pain, anger, and hurt to the surface. It allows you to develop methods to cope with your issues from the past or even present pain in order to become the person you wish or want to be. Therapy also helps you understand your strengths and weakness's as well as ways in which to handle them or to better put them in to perspective. For some no amount of therapy can help or it may even be to little to late! You have to want to get help and admit that something is wrong and know that and realize that everyday is a constant struggle to get a little piece of yourself back. Trust is the key to any successful therapy and tapping into the healing process is the start to the road to uncovering the secrets of your heart, body, mind and soul. Knowing that the walls must be broken down, is really and truly the only way to self recovery. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

What Do You Do When Your Ex Comes Back?

Ex- Someone that you use to be involved with, i.e. wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend. I'm unsure of what to really say on this matter, because I have had an ex come back a few times. Now that I sit and think about it, I should have never taken him back the first time, and certainly not the second time. But, some of us want to believe that our ex has changed or they have learned their lesson or they really love us. When and if your ex comes back, you have to ask yourself is it worth having them in your life? Do they make your life easier, bring you good fortune, help out when you get in a bind or are they cause of you being in a bind. I mean let's face it when there around your luck seems to go from good to worst, they make your life a lot harder than it needs to be and they don't contribute to your overall household. That is God's way of saying that your ex is not the person for you and you need to drop that dead weight. I can't tell you what to do for you or if you should take your ex back, but you should consider a few things: Have they changed, can you see the change, what are they bringing to the table this time, do you feel safe and secure around them, and most importantly can you trust them. These are very important things on your list that you should be able to put a check by and say yes to all of them. If you can't say yes to at least three or more then you should leave that dead weight right where it's at. After all you have moved on to greener pastures and sunny skies and happier days. Sometimes the past needs to stay in the past, in order to allow the future to be right and bright!
Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

When He's Just Not That Into You?

The reason I put a question mark behind this statement is because, what do you do when this happens to you? I mean you like a guy or he gets you interested in him , only to act like he doesn't want to be bothered or that you should be the one doing all the work to get him. I often think to myself who does he think he is or why do I have to ask him to call me or be the one to text first, or even be the one to start up conversation. If you find yourself doing this, then he's just not that into you or he must be an ass or a selfish jerk. It's funny how men say that they want a good woman who listens, cooks, cleans,can be submissive, and who is supportive, but then when one comes there way they push you to the side for the freak or the one with the messed up attitude, bangin body and who treats them like crap. Basically they settle for the 20% woman, when they could have had the 80% woman who is like the shero who can do it all and have their back through good and bad times. Let's be realistic it hurts when they don't return the feelings or when they turn them off and start to act funny towards you. All of a sudden you now feel like you have been thrown under the bus and this man is looking at you like you have the plague or like you have offended him or why would he want to talk to the likes of you! If you have ever had this happen you may feel like never opening up to another man again or like putting the walls back up, but don't. Look at it as a lesson learned and your pride bruised a bit, but knowing that you can bounce back from it and that God has your best interests at heart you will be okay.It's his loss and you know what your worth is, it's more than doing all the work and making it easy for him. After all the man is suppose to pursue the woman and make her want him. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Adventures In Babysitting!

Babysitting- The process of watching children or taking care of someone else's. Now many of us have done some form of babysitting, whether we have gotten paid for it or not. I mean we have watched our siblings, cousins, the neighbors kids, and even our friends kids. But, what about when we get older and because we work with kids or were good with them people assume that we love to be around them all the time. Well, that is not the case for some of us, hell for most of us. Let's break it down, if you don't like your kids then why the hell would anyone else like them. If your kids are bad as hell, why would you assume that someone wants to watch them and watch them for free at that! If you spend half your day yelling at your kids or they make you want to drink, a babysitter is not the answer for you, therapy is! Babysitting requires enjoying kids, liking them, wanting to be around them and actually wanting to take care of them. I think that as a babysitter you should follow the code of the late and great Bernie Mac" Busta them open to the white meat" Punchem dead in the throat" when they get smart or talk back, and "beat the hell out them just because sometimes to reinforce that you don't play". If we follow these simple rules one or two things will happen: Either you will be arrested or your child will be so afraid of you that you have nothing to worry about. In babysitting make sure the child is one that you like, that you enjoy babysitting, and that you are allowed to beat the hell out them if needed, and never ever keep a child that you are not allowed to put your hands on. Babysitting rule number one never keep a child that you can't beat! As for me I only take care of kids that I can put my hands on and one's that I like. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Joy Of Summer!

Summer time is one the most anticipated seasons of the year! We look forward to the pool being opened, being able to wear our short skirts, tight shorts, swimsuits, and the cookout's that bring us the best memories of this special time of year. It's funny how all the woes and worries of the day can be easily be fixed by a dip in the pool, a trip to the ice cream shop, a nice long summer vacation to the beach or theme park. Summer allows for you to do so much more with your friends and family member's that the winter and fall at times prevents. I mean you can stay outside longer and play, the theme parks are now open, summer movies are a plus, and the sales they have on summer gear or lack there of is amazing ! This is the time when we meet and fall in love, even if only for the summer time and we take that leap of faith of kicking back our heels and throwing caution to the wind. The joy of summer helps you to understand how important it is to take time to be with your loved ones and take a break and just be free sometimes. Next time, the summer rolls around make plans to take a few trips here and there with your family and with your friends or that special someone who makes you smile from ear to ear and who brings out the best in you! I have enjoyed my summer of relaxing and not having to go to work for two months, and being able to spend it with my family and friends. I can't wait til the next summer, which I plan to make it the best one yet. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Fork In The Road: Which Path Do We Take?

In Life their are twist and turns and curves in the road that have us questioning our choices and the decisions that we make. We are taught at a young age that you go to school, graduate, attend college or the military and make a life for yourself. Were told that in order to be a success you have to have a college degree, which is the gate keeper to all our problems and the answer. In truth or theory that is farthest from reality! I mean an education is extremely important and vital to your future, but it's not the answer. You have so many options now to choose from that just by taking continuing education classes, going to technical school, or even the military and on the job training can ensure a successful future as well. Many times as parents, counselors and mentors we don't always tell our children the truth about education. If you are a below average student or one who really does not do well in school, then college may not be the place for you, or if you don't feel that the military is the road to discovery, then maybe technical school or on the job training is the fit for you. You have to know your strengths and your weakness's in order to know the path that is right for you. Why spend several years in college, to never finish or waste your parents money, or why join the military only to be kicked out for not conforming to the man! I mean in the end you do what makes you happy and enjoy your career path, whatever it may be and live your life to the fullest. Remember there are no do overs in life and you only live once. Carpi Diem( Cease the Day). Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

When Your Afraid To Fall In Love!

What is it about being in love or falling in love that makes us go crazy or say and do some of the stupidest things! I mean when you meet the person that makes you smile uncontrollably, they make you nervous, and crazy all at the same time. I mean you find yourself smiling and thinking about them out of the blue or you have the best dream about you and them together! It's like waking up on Christmas Day and getting all the presents on your list. Being in love is one of the best feelings their is and it puts you in this place where nothing or no one can make you feel bad or sad about yourself or your life, because you have that special someone in your corner. But, when that love is taken away and your heart is broken by that special someone you start to build walls around your heart and yourself. You no longer trust and you feel ashamed and hurt by love! You wanna let someone in again and you wanna start giving of yourself and your heart, but your thinking in the back of your mind are they going to use me like the last, cheat on me like the last, hurt my heart and spirit like the last love. At this point your so afraid to love or trust love again that you shut yourself off or tell yourself I don't need anyone, I have my friends, my kids, my hobbies, my work, and I got the good book, so I don't need anyone in my life. That would be a lie, and a bad one at that. No one wants to be hurt or shaken by love, but it does happen and it's hard to let love back into your heart and to not think that it will tear you apart again. I should know, I have had it happen to me and I don't trust, I am scared a lot that it will happen again and I have so much love to give, but I want it to go to the right person. Someone who will appreciate me and the way I love them, care for them, stand by them, listen to them, be supportive of them, and just knowing that I am there good or bad times. Knowing that this person loves me and only me and is there for me in the same ways I am for them. That they shower me with their love, surprise me, cater to me, listen to my needs, share in my success's and support my changes what ever they may be. I know in my heart that their is someone out their who will give me this and more, I just have to let love in and except what comes next! Let go and let God. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Women: Does Size Matter?

Hello ladies! I had a conversation with a guy friend of mine, and he asked me does size matter? Now, when he asked me this I wanted to say hell yeah size matter and what kind of question is that to ask? I mean, if you have to ask then maybe your not toting enough hosiery down there. Now all jokes aside, I explained to him that women look past a lot but that when it comes to the bedroom their are some things we will not make an exception for. And size is one of them, I mean come on you want a man that has the tools and can use them as well. I mean the average woman wants a man with at least 7 inches and the max at maybe 9inches(width included). That's a good fit and your able to enjoy and be spanked & thank all at the same time. Of course we may occasionally allow for the 10 or 11 incher, but that's very rare indeed. And who wants a man with a 4 to 5 incher, that feels like someone is scratching you or tickling you! I mean that will only make us mad and then we will make you really, really sad,and think before you ever decide to drop your pants and try to get some of our cookie, the nook-nook, the dessert or any other women for that matter. So to answer my friends question, yes size does really matter and just because you have the tools does not mean you know how to use them. On that note, I say men brush up on your skills, know what your working with, and approach women who will accept and respect the gift that you may or may not have! And remember that sex to us is more than just physical, it's emotionally, mental, and spiritual; with the exception of the distasteful women out there that want nothing other than a quick fix. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Sex In The Work Place?

Sex in the work place happens more often that we think! Think about it, when you work closely in tight quarters or in close areas with your co-workers be they married or not an attraction develops. Then one day while at work, you start to talk about sexual relationships and problems at home and before you know it, your seeing one another outside the job, on the job, and in the job. Then the sex begins, the fun starts, the butterflies in your stomach, your feeling good and then the unthinkable happens, you break-up and everyone knows about, including your partner that you were cheating on. Now your coming to the job arguing with one another, not speaking to each other, acting all psychotic because now your office romance has turned into a sexual nightmare. Everyone sees you as the office home wrecker and or slut, tramp, lonely person and he walks away with the title of "typical man" or "trifling ass". Having sex with your co-workers is never a wise idea and is a definite no, no, if they are married! It can only lead to disaster and one or both of you being fired! Is getting a little piece at the work place worth losing your family and your job over? Is it worth being labeled a tramp, trifling man, losing the respect of your colleagues and your dignity. Next time you wanna get a piece on the side at your job, think about whether or not it's worth losing everything for? Your life, your career and your self worth. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Church: Food For The Soul!

Going to church is food for the soul that keeps you feed on the word of God. There's something about being in the house of the lord that makes you feel good inside, makes you feel safe and loved all at the same time. So many times we fall astray and loose our way, and find ourselves on a path that leads to misery and loneliness. We start off going to church getting the blessings from God and then once we get what we want, then we stop going! Now that's when trouble and the Devil begin to move in and stir things up inside. Were no longer doing God's will, we are now lying, stealing, cheating, cursing out any and everyone and blaming God for our misfortunes. God wants all of his children to be blessed and to know his love and mercy. He wants us to get the word, which is food for our soul. God wants us to know that he never leaves us, it's us who leaves him and if we stay in the word and continue to pray and trust in him, he will take care of all our troubles and needs. The lord says " lean not to thine own understanding and in all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy path". Let go and let God, that statement is easier said than done for some of us. But if you really believe in him and trust in him it so easy to let go and give it to God. So,when your walking around stressed out about this bill or that bill, your relationships, your job, your family and your health, just remember to trust in him and know that talking to him and going to church and receiving the word is food for the soul.Know that through Christ all things are possible. If he leads you to it, the lord will bring you through it. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Living Alone: Is it for you?

Many of us have spent the better part of our adulthood looking and searching for that one true person. The one with whom we are suppose to spend our lives with, build that magical life together, and start a family. We spend so much time focusing on having someone by our sides, that we loose sight of the rest of life. Then once we find that person and we go through the honeymoon phase of complete bliss, then the comfortable phase where we can walk around naked or fart around our mate, to the need some time apart phase or as I like to call it the divorce phase, where you can't stand one another, they get on your nerves, you have had thoughts of pushing them down the stairs, poisoning them, or even choking them in their sleep.Now your at the low point and you feel the need to be alone. You have no intentions of dating again or falling in love anymore and if one more person tries to fix you up, your go to shoot them! Now being alone has perks, like you don't have to consider someone else's feelings, you can pick the movie, the place to eat and you can focus on your needs instead of there's. But what happens when you've been alone now for months, which has now turned into years and you have started to enjoy living like this? It's not okay to be alone with no companion of some kind and just because you have been hurt a few times or many times doesn't mean that you turn yourself into a nun or a monk. Taking time off from dating is normal, but damn taking a retirement from dating is not okay, nor is it healthy. How do you expect to meet someone and get over the hurt or pain, if you stay locked or hidden from the world. Your heart may have been broken, your pride pushed to the side, but you have to realize that in relationships their are ups and downs and storms that come and go, but at the end of it all you are still standing. Don't let the idea of living alone feel like it's your only option or the only way way to keep from being hurt. The Lord takes people out of your life for a reason and he places them in your life for a reason as well. Just know that your worth more than a life of living alone and that it's their lost for not realizing how special you truly are. And, hey they always come back, whether you want them to or not! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Road To Recovery

Recovery: To get back something that has been lost or stolen. Often we find ourselves in the predicament of letting go of our old life and accepting our new one. It's hard to get that monkey off our backs called the night life, friends who still smoke weed, drink all day everyday, cheat on their partners, don't pay their bills or still live at home with their mama. We seem to think that we have lost something by not hanging out with these dead beats! I mean now you are living your life right, going to church, staying out of the clubs, no more lying or cheating, and we now have our priorities together. But, it's something about our past that tries to hold us back and prevent us from being happy and having our blessings. Sometimes, what's holding us back is ourselves or friends and families members that liked us better when we were living our lives without purpose. The road to recovery is one that has many twist and turns, and hills and mountains to climb. In order to really let go of our past and head to that road call recovery we have to let go of that dead weight called friends and family members who don't want you to succeed, ex's who keep poppin up trying to mess up our blessings from God. The road to recovery can be long , hard, and sometimes lonely but if we have a good support system and lean on the Lord we will come through it on top and with a renewed spirit and a new outlook on life.

Mentoring! Is It Really For You?

Mentor: A person looked upon for wise advice and guidance. In order to be a mentor one should be able to have some years of work history and everyday life experiences. Being a mentor is a huge responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly. You are in a position to mold and shape young minds, ideas, thoughts, and how they view the world. If you give them the wrong tools or guide them down the wrong path, all could be lost forever! As a mentor you must choose how you present yourself, convey your ideas and thoughts, and the way in which you package your every step from beginning to end. In this role you are being watched by all, but most importantly by the your protege or mentee and one wrong move or slip of the tongue and all could be undone. I mean you have to choose your words carefully and pick your battles wisely, because they are watching you and looking to you for the tools to lead and succeed. If you take role as a mentor seriously, then your protege or mentee will get what they need from you and he or she will be ready for the world outside of elementary, middle school, and high school. A young mind is a terrible thing to waste, so take your role of being a mentor seriously and make sure it is really for you. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Back To School Again!

It's that time of year again! Time for the kiddies to go back to school and parents to return to work or cease vacations. If your like most parents, your glad as hell that your little crumb snatchers or your friends or family members crumb snatchers are returning to school. Now you might be able to keep some food in the fridge and not have to see anymore of your children's friends come over, amen. Or hear them ask what are we doing today, where are we going, i'm so bored, blah, blah, blah! Also, now is the time to get your kids motivated for the new school year and to get involved in some extra curricular activities. I.E. one's that keep them at school a little longer to help you keep your electric bill down, phone bill down, food bill lower and water bill in check. Now you will be able to get back to a normal schedule again and have some order in your daily routine for yet another 180 days, give or take a few. The kids will prepare to ride the twinkie, where the windows may not work, the air may or may not work, and they get stuck sitting next to someone who picks their nose and eats it(how gross)! Let's not forget for us parents the schools have found new ways to make us spend more money, that we don't have. They have added new supplies to the list or one's that you can only purchase through their school. Or how about wearing uniforms and having certain book bags or shirts and pants that they can or can't wear. As parents we have to make changes as well. Getting the kids back to school requires some adjustments and making sure they get the proper sleep, and eating the right foods for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Making sure they are properly prepared for the school day, will ensure them the right start from the start! So this school year let's be proactive, productive, involved, and a driving force behind our child's success in education. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Your Boss: Nightmare or Saint?

Hello everyone! How many of you have the boss from hell? The boss who takes credit for your hard work, your ideas, you stay late and they don't or you get cards for the office birthday's and they pretend it was all them. This would be the boss that's a complete nightmare! I mean think about it, you know more than them, they can't function without you, yet they take credit for all you do and they treat you like crap. When you need time off, they ask you a 1,000 damn questions but when there not at work your suppose to cover for them or pick up the slack on their work load. Hell no! Then at Christmas they short change you on your gift, your time off, and your damn bonus. That is the boss who's a waking breathing nightmare! Now some of us have the boss that is a true saint. I mean they remember your birthday, kids special moments, your years on the job, understand when your late, doesn't mind giving you time off and shares in the credit or gives you all the credit in work getting done. You guys can share a laugh, a drink, and maybe even dinner. Truth be told a lot of us have more boss's that are walking nightmares, than we do boss's that are saints. I think the best way to deal with either one is to just cover your tracks, document, document, and do what your suppose to do. Know your place and stay in it, and when it's time to shine or leave you will be better for it and better prepared. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Grass Isn't Always Greener!

So many times we think that things would only be better if we had a nicer home, better job, happy relationship, dependable friends and family, or if life just gave us what we wanted at all times. Once reality sets in we realize that's not how it works and God takes you through the struggle for a reason. Now some of us struggle more than others and never get the blessings that he has in store for us or we take the blessings for granted. Is getting a better job or a happier relationship or nicer home going to fix all your problems? Not if your the problem and your taking the same issues, drama, and lugging it to the new house, new job or new relationship. Sometimes we have to look within ourselves and see what can we do to fix the situation or how can we better ourselves and keep from bringing that old baggage to new areas of our life. Every now and again it really was the job, the house, or the relationship. But for the most part it was you, yourself and you alone to blame for what happened and no one else. Stop always pointing the finger and look at how you can make this better or how we can work to get it better or back to the way it was. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, and a lot of times we jump from one frying pan to one that is even hotter than the last. Find ways to improve your relationships be they personal, work or with yourself and know that if you work together and trust in the Lord you can make it through any situation that comes your way. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm!

The Enemy Within: Do You Really Know Your Mate?

Enemy: Someone who hates and wants to harm or destroy another. What happens when we think we know the person that sleeps beside us? When the day comes that this person puts their hands on you, calls you names, makes you feel like crap, has you second guessing yourself and not even trusting your own judgement. He or she makes you think that you are a bad parent and a horrible friend all in the same sentence. They tear you down just to build you back up. I mean your self esteem is shot, you look at yourself as if your not good enough to love, your not smart enough, and that you deserve the way they have treated you. Now your sleeping with the enemy and it doesn't feel good or safe. What do you do? Do you stay? Do you fight? Do you end the relationship or do you work it out? If you stay, you run the risk of the abuse happening again. If you fight your both going to jail, only if you get caught though. If you end the relationship then you wonder whether or not you should have tried to work it out or if they would change, could change or even wanted to change. If this has never happened to you, then it's hard to be on the outside looking in and say what you would or wouldn't do. I mean you fight or flight: Meaning you either stay or you leave. Only you can say when enough is enough and only you know when your really and truly ready to move on with your life. Once you make that decision they no longer have that power over you and they can longer take your joy away from you. Remember that abuse can be emotional, mental, verbal, and physical. Never let anyone tell you that just because it was mental, verbal, or emotional it wasn't abuse. Abuse is abuse and it's wrong no matter who's doing the abusing(male or female). I'm Raven Storm and I have no intentions of sleeping with the enemy anymore! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm!