Being Tamed!

Have you ever heard of the saying trying to tame a wild horse or that horse needs to be tamed? I think sometimes that their are some women who truly are wild in the sense, that they are very strong and independent and afraid to let their guards down. Kinda like trying to tame a wild horse. I mean if you truly think about it, their are certain types of men out there that are for the taming and some who truly are not up for the challenge.I guess what I am saying is that when a man meets a woman he knows if she is easily broken or if she is going to take some work. I guess i'm a wild horse in some ways, especially when it comes to relationships and work. For me it's going to take the right man to truly tame me and make me feel secure within a friendship, relationship, and just being able to trust him,his words,his actions,and that his intentions are true when it comes to the us, our, and we. It' so funny to me when my friends and I sit and talk about men who get with crazy women, women with drama or baggage and the many kids or many marriages or just the lying period.Then my friends say to me that black men are sorry, liars, or just a mess. I choose to believe that every man is different and I will never give up on the black man. You have good ones and bad ones and it's all a toss up in the game of friendship & love. But, in the end do we tame our men or do they tame us? Maybe we tame each other and it shouldn't really matter who got who or which one of you are calling the shots. As long as you have respect, love, trust, honesty, and communication you can go far and make any friendship or relationship work through good times and bad times. As always i'm Raven Storm and these are just my random thoughts!

Friendships & Mistakes!

Sometimes it seems as if we are just going through the motions. Like the choices we have made are defining our present life. I guess what I am saying is that we choose the wrong people to be friends with, lovers, spouses, and even the wrong careers. At what point do we decide to make the right choices or correct the mistakes of the pass. I sit and think about the people I have allowed into my life friends and the men I have had relationships with. I have no regrets, but within the friends department I have reservations about those I have allowed into my life. Every relationship is a lesson learned and something different discovered. But, in some cases it can be a horrible mistake to invite a new friend into your life and have them blame you, or treat you as if you ruined the friendship. I mean anytime there is conflict you should be able to handle it as adults and maintain the friendship, unless you were never friends to begin with or unless you lied about how you really felt towards the person. There are times when we have to accept that people are not who they say they are and that sometimes we have made an error in judgement when it comes to trusting the person. It doesn't mean you don't trust the next person, you just have to be a little bit more careful! I know that life happens to us all and it's how you choose to handle it in the end. As for myself, I will handle it with grace and hold my head up high. If I am not wanted in someone's life or if they want me to not call, text, or write them then I have to respect their wishes and their privacy. I know how special I am and that my feelings come from a place of happiness, love, and support. And, that if that makes me an emotional or over caring person then I hold that title with pride. I have always been a very loving person who sees the beauty in all and also knows that ugliness lies within us as well. I refuse to change into a person who hides how she feels or thinks and if my emotions come across as something more, that's not always the case. I want a person to know how special they are to me at all times and that includes my friends, family, and partners. For that I will not apologize for or be made to feel guilty about ever. And, the people that have come and gone in my life I am thankful for... Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Deserving To Be Treated The Right Way!

Are we really being treated the way we deserve and need to be? I ask this question because so many times we allow others to walk all over us, give us the crap that's left over, disrespect us, and make us feel as if we have done something wrong because we show them love or something they have never had before. How many times have you been with someone or liked a person, only to have them not appreciate you or tell you how bad their last relationship was or that their not use to all the love and attention your giving them. I find it hard to believe that a person would stay with someone who never tells them how special they are, that their life is so much brighter with them in it, take the time to listen to their needs, support their dreams, make love to their mind as we as their body and just give them intimacy everyday in every way. I must admit I am a romantic and I believe in love and that their is a good man out their somewhere waiting to find me or we find each other. And, even with the fears I have it's worth the risk for love with the right person. People forget that love is never boastful, it's not proud, it's not blind, but it's patient, kind, forgiving, and stands through the good and the bad at all times. Maybe, I am just a sucker when it comes to matters of the heart but I know that I would rather have loved than to have never had it at all. I also know that I deserve a strong, loving, kind, and gentle man who treats me as his equal, yet still me knowing that he is the head at all times and we respect and love one another and can agree to disagree and he will be my King and I his Queen. That's what I want and as women we need to allow men to be that knight in shining armour for us. What I mean is allow a man to be a man and follow his lead and you may be surprise by the journey you guys take and the wonders you explore together. And, men allow your woman to shine and treat her with care and attention and realize that she will be your backbone and follow you to the ends of the earth as long as you make her a priority. Don't ever allow others to treat you less than what you deserve. And if a person leaves you or walks out, then they never deserved you to begin with. A lot of times taking someone back shows how we really truly feel about ourselves. I love myself and refuse to go back to someone who left me as if there was another great woman out their. When you know your self worth and your true value, you will never allow a person to come back and treat you the same or act as if their actions were okay! If, that person really loved and wanted you then they would have never left or made the mistakes they did to ruin the relationship to begin with. It's something to truly think about! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm