Let It Burn!

Sometimes when emotions are flowing or running high, it's best to just let it burn or let it go! People come and people go, but the one's that are really important never leave. They are always there through good and bad times and even at your worst or lowest point they come in and pick you up and put you back together again. Often times more than we care to admit we have to let it burn and get rid of people in our lives that are toxic and just bring us nothing but misfortune. I mean they are like dead weight just holding you down or stopping your blessings from coming in. Letting it burn can be the best thing for you to do in order to get where you need to be and want to go and a lot of times it will allow you to see who your true friends really are and a chance for you to get those dead beets out! In the end you have to do what is best for you and sometimes, it is hard to say goodbye to those friends that allow you to do and say the wrong things, when you know you should be doing all the right things. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Having Tougher Skin!

As I type my blog I think to myself why am I not like more of my friends. They have this thick skin when it comes to men and relationships. They are able to treat them like they don't matter to them, they don't compliment them or tell them how special they are to them or do nice things for them, unless it's a special moment. As, for me I am nice to my man, help him out, say nice things to them, cook, supportive and yet they take me for granted. It's not in me to be mean or I always say the truth or show my gratitude to my mate. I am at a crossroads and I pray daily and normally I always take at least a year or two to be alone and get my heart and myself back in shape mentally and emotionally. This time I decided to go against my better judgment and try something new. I tried my hand at getting to know a guy or letting what happens happen and he decided to be a complete ass to me and a jerk. Now, if a man is a jerk or asshole to you in the beginning then that means that they will be one to you in the middle and in the end. He really surprised me and it made me feel a way that I have never felt before. I am confused and I am never confused about my feelings and hate is a strong word, but I feel a great dislike for him and I can not respect a person who lies, or who is an asshole or a jerk. It's funny, I never did anything to him and in the beginning he was so nice to me! I would ask how his day was, or what was up and he was just a complete jerk to me. So, I guess I should be mean to him now and treat him the way he has treated me. I'm unsure of how to do that, because that is not me. But, this once it will be me and I can live with that. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Relationships, Oh My God!

Relationships are suppose to be easy and not so damn hard! I mean I expect some bumps in the road, but damn from the start their should be none. Having sex should be fun, free, and flowing and spending time should be an adventure of mishaps and good times. Why is it that if a woman wants to have sex no strings attached, then she is wrong for that or if she says lets have fun and see where this goes a man tries to change the dynamics of the agreement. I mean he can't handle her not wanting to be attached or hanging on to his every word or move. But, If he says let's have fun with no attachment then it's okay or expected of him. Why can't as adults we make a clear cut decision when it comes to sex and relationships or both? I mean can we not be lover, friend and partner or just one of the three without someone making a big deal or freaking out? Since when does having just sex or wanting just sex have to be a part-time job? I mean since when do men ask so many damn questions about it?You use to be able to tell a man sex no strings attached and they came running, now they ask as many questions as a chick would. And, it ain't pretty! So, now we women must come prepared and be ready for the guy who acts like a chick and can't understand how we as women can become sexual predators like themselves. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Men: What The Hell!

Why is it that men have just as many issues, if not more than women? But, yet they expect us to be perfect and deal with their bullshit! I mean we have to keep hair done, toes & nails painted and looking fresh, our figure in tact and perform on demand.While their sorry asses may or may not have a job, baby mama drama, no car, and living at home with their mom or have a roommate. I mean they can't always perform on demand, they let us down, sometimes they keep their hair cut and beard trimmed and lot's of times they are unfaithful and don't help with bills. Then they have the nerve to date outside of their race and if we do that, then were not holding a brother down or were betraying our black men! What the hell? If, our black men did right by themselves, by the Lord, and by us then we as black women wouldn't think about dating outside our race, or have to raise our kids alone, or even consider being by ourselves! The truth is that as women we are the back bone to our men and some of them do not appreciate us or think enough of us to show just how special we are to them. Yet, we stand by and support our men through good and bad times but when we need them they are no where to be found. Don't get me wrong there are some good men out there, but most of them are either gay, dating outside their race or with a woman who doesn't appreciate them either. So, what is a woman to do? If and when you find the answer to that question please send me an email. Seriously trust in God and he will lead a good man to you, but you have to be open and willing to let go of all the past hurt and trusting of the new love that God is sending your way. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

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Trusting Your Heart!

How do you start to spread your wings and try to fly again? How do you let go of the pain and the hurt? What do you do with all the unanswered questions? I mean when you have someone that is suppose to love you and protect your heart and yet, they are the one's who constantly keep breaking it! You tell yourself that if I stand by them, love them, support them, keep them happy, that they will stay with you or at least be thankful for all that you have done. When you have been broken so badly inside and out that you have flashbacks of the hurt and you no longer want to give yourself to another soul. Your afraid all the time of being lied to, cheated on, never being told how beautiful you are or made to feel like something is wrong with you. Always being second choice, canceled plans or no plans even made with you at all or not being wanted by the person who is suppose to be your mate, your safe place. How do you trust anyone else with your heart, with your spirit, with your love and your body? First you must give all your hurt, your pain, and your fears to the Lord. That is the first step and once that is done, it will all fall in order and God will lead you to all the answers. He will protect you and mend your broken heart and heal all your wounds. He will wash you clean and make you new again! As always, the "Lord is the truth and the light". Randomly Yours, Raven Storm