Reasons To Love!

What are the reasons to love? I mean as I write this I sit and think about how you can give so much of yourself to a person, just to have them throw it in your face or to hurt you.You take a part of yourself and you try to protect it from the past loves and the past hurts and pains. Then you meet this man or woman who seems to make you float on a cloud and who gives you a reason to love again. I mean they give you a reason to trust and to believe in relationships in every aspect. Now, that part of yourself that has been sitting on the shelf locked away has become a whole part again. It terrifies you and you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach again and all the emotions come fluttering to the top.Some will tell you to hell with love, others will say it's the best thing and many will say their only going to hurt you in the end.Well, at some point you have to decide if love is worth the risk or if that person is worth the risk.Many times we give our love to a person who is not worthy of us or our love! We see the signs and we ignore them, thinking that they will go away or they will change. A person will only change when and if they want too change. No matter how much you do for them or how much you give to them, no matter how much you stand by their side or sacrifice for them it won't change them.I truly believe that their is someone out their to love the right person, but I am unsure if that person is out their for me. Me and love haven't been friends in a very long time and I'm unsure if we ever will be anytime soon! I don't think you stay with someone out of guilt, because you have kids, or because you think or feel you can't do any better or just because your ass is too lazy to start over.Everyone deserves to be happy and to have love at all ages. I pray and hold dear to my heart and my faith in God that he will send someone for me eventually. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Desires of the Heart~

Sometimes when dealing with the heart, it can be confusing and misleading. One minute you may feel this burst of love inside for a person and then at the same moment you can feel the break in your heart from the hurt they have caused you. When you lead with your heart, instead of your mind you can make some of the biggest mistakes of your love life or life period. Now, there are times when the heart leads you down the right path and you find that special someone. They love us in our finest hour and they stand by us in our most trying times, and yet through it all their love never waivers. To have your heart filled with so much love and be able to give it to someone who really appreciates you and value your heart means the world. The heart has only one desire and that is to be loved and adored and to give love in return. At times when your heart is broken or wounded, it can be hard to give your heart to another person. You want to put walls and distance between you and the word love and the words giving your heart to someone. If you allow God to enter into that place of hurt inside, he can heal your broken or wounded heart and make it anew again. So, when dealing with the desires of the heart, take it nice and slow and be sure to think before you leap! Randomly Your, Raven Storm

" I'm Just saying"!

What happen to the days of just having fun! I mean going out with your friends, meeting new people and having understandings with the opposite sex? There was a time when living for the weekend, meant exactly that! No one has fun anymore,everyone is so serious and stressed out all the time, or they have to pencil you in or they rather sit at home alone or playing video games. I miss the days of old when going out meant dancing all nite long, meeting a cute guy, exchanging numbers and, having a little dinner or breakfast in the process! It use to be fun to go out, now it seems like a job or a freaking interview or a damn chore. I wish we could turn back the clock and relive those fun days and live for the moment, even if for only a weekend! Now you have young guys acting like old men and sitting in the house playing XBox or Playstation or even WII. Hell some of them even rather hang with guys than a woman, which is a little disturbing. Then the old men are acting like young guys and popping those little blue pills like candy in order to keep up in the bedroom(ugh). And, who wants someone old enough to be their dad? Now, that is gross as hell for real. And then the rest are gay or bi-sexual and that is not a road I will ever travel, but if that makes you happy then to each it's own. Just want to go out and not feel like I am trying to get a job or a scholarship for a relationship! I'm just saying. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Let It Burn!

Sometimes when emotions are flowing or running high, it's best to just let it burn or let it go! People come and people go, but the one's that are really important never leave. They are always there through good and bad times and even at your worst or lowest point they come in and pick you up and put you back together again. Often times more than we care to admit we have to let it burn and get rid of people in our lives that are toxic and just bring us nothing but misfortune. I mean they are like dead weight just holding you down or stopping your blessings from coming in. Letting it burn can be the best thing for you to do in order to get where you need to be and want to go and a lot of times it will allow you to see who your true friends really are and a chance for you to get those dead beets out! In the end you have to do what is best for you and sometimes, it is hard to say goodbye to those friends that allow you to do and say the wrong things, when you know you should be doing all the right things. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Having Tougher Skin!

As I type my blog I think to myself why am I not like more of my friends. They have this thick skin when it comes to men and relationships. They are able to treat them like they don't matter to them, they don't compliment them or tell them how special they are to them or do nice things for them, unless it's a special moment. As, for me I am nice to my man, help him out, say nice things to them, cook, supportive and yet they take me for granted. It's not in me to be mean or I always say the truth or show my gratitude to my mate. I am at a crossroads and I pray daily and normally I always take at least a year or two to be alone and get my heart and myself back in shape mentally and emotionally. This time I decided to go against my better judgment and try something new. I tried my hand at getting to know a guy or letting what happens happen and he decided to be a complete ass to me and a jerk. Now, if a man is a jerk or asshole to you in the beginning then that means that they will be one to you in the middle and in the end. He really surprised me and it made me feel a way that I have never felt before. I am confused and I am never confused about my feelings and hate is a strong word, but I feel a great dislike for him and I can not respect a person who lies, or who is an asshole or a jerk. It's funny, I never did anything to him and in the beginning he was so nice to me! I would ask how his day was, or what was up and he was just a complete jerk to me. So, I guess I should be mean to him now and treat him the way he has treated me. I'm unsure of how to do that, because that is not me. But, this once it will be me and I can live with that. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Relationships, Oh My God!

Relationships are suppose to be easy and not so damn hard! I mean I expect some bumps in the road, but damn from the start their should be none. Having sex should be fun, free, and flowing and spending time should be an adventure of mishaps and good times. Why is it that if a woman wants to have sex no strings attached, then she is wrong for that or if she says lets have fun and see where this goes a man tries to change the dynamics of the agreement. I mean he can't handle her not wanting to be attached or hanging on to his every word or move. But, If he says let's have fun with no attachment then it's okay or expected of him. Why can't as adults we make a clear cut decision when it comes to sex and relationships or both? I mean can we not be lover, friend and partner or just one of the three without someone making a big deal or freaking out? Since when does having just sex or wanting just sex have to be a part-time job? I mean since when do men ask so many damn questions about it?You use to be able to tell a man sex no strings attached and they came running, now they ask as many questions as a chick would. And, it ain't pretty! So, now we women must come prepared and be ready for the guy who acts like a chick and can't understand how we as women can become sexual predators like themselves. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Men: What The Hell!

Why is it that men have just as many issues, if not more than women? But, yet they expect us to be perfect and deal with their bullshit! I mean we have to keep hair done, toes & nails painted and looking fresh, our figure in tact and perform on demand.While their sorry asses may or may not have a job, baby mama drama, no car, and living at home with their mom or have a roommate. I mean they can't always perform on demand, they let us down, sometimes they keep their hair cut and beard trimmed and lot's of times they are unfaithful and don't help with bills. Then they have the nerve to date outside of their race and if we do that, then were not holding a brother down or were betraying our black men! What the hell? If, our black men did right by themselves, by the Lord, and by us then we as black women wouldn't think about dating outside our race, or have to raise our kids alone, or even consider being by ourselves! The truth is that as women we are the back bone to our men and some of them do not appreciate us or think enough of us to show just how special we are to them. Yet, we stand by and support our men through good and bad times but when we need them they are no where to be found. Don't get me wrong there are some good men out there, but most of them are either gay, dating outside their race or with a woman who doesn't appreciate them either. So, what is a woman to do? If and when you find the answer to that question please send me an email. Seriously trust in God and he will lead a good man to you, but you have to be open and willing to let go of all the past hurt and trusting of the new love that God is sending your way. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

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Trusting Your Heart!

How do you start to spread your wings and try to fly again? How do you let go of the pain and the hurt? What do you do with all the unanswered questions? I mean when you have someone that is suppose to love you and protect your heart and yet, they are the one's who constantly keep breaking it! You tell yourself that if I stand by them, love them, support them, keep them happy, that they will stay with you or at least be thankful for all that you have done. When you have been broken so badly inside and out that you have flashbacks of the hurt and you no longer want to give yourself to another soul. Your afraid all the time of being lied to, cheated on, never being told how beautiful you are or made to feel like something is wrong with you. Always being second choice, canceled plans or no plans even made with you at all or not being wanted by the person who is suppose to be your mate, your safe place. How do you trust anyone else with your heart, with your spirit, with your love and your body? First you must give all your hurt, your pain, and your fears to the Lord. That is the first step and once that is done, it will all fall in order and God will lead you to all the answers. He will protect you and mend your broken heart and heal all your wounds. He will wash you clean and make you new again! As always, the "Lord is the truth and the light". Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Sugar Daddy! Do You Have One?

Sugar Daddy- A man who pays your bills and takes care of you that maybe older and gets a piece every now and then from you; But, isn't your man at all.Now there are many of us women who have themselves a Sugar Daddy and he truly knows his place and he takes care of all your needs. I mean you need your car fixed, gas bill paid, cable paid, spending money, your kids need clothes and he is their like Sugar Daddy is suppose to be. All you have to do is break him off every now and again and your set for several months. Sugar Daddy is what we woman call our Super Man that has his own place, own car and doesn't need you to live with, drop his ass off anywhere, and when you call he is already there with cash or plastic on deck and ready to save the day! He doesn't give you any drama, he causes no stress, he treats you like a Queen and you and him both understand and except the dynamics of your relationship. It's a give and take and everyone is very pleased and happy. Your friends, your family members, and co-workers may not understand and to that I say damn them. Do not, I repeat do not let them mess up your relationship with your Sugar Daddy! Because it's hard to find another Sugar Daddy that's taking care of you and your household the way he is. Now, unless they are going to take his place, tell those nosey hens to stay in their hen house and leave your happy arrangement alone! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Playing Games!

Well as the title states, then maybe you can relate. What do you do when a person is into playing games? I mean they say they want to spend time with you or you ask them to hangout and they have every excuse why they can't be with you.Then when you call them on it, they reassure you that it's not like that and they were just busy! I mean okay, this person will text you for hours and talk to you about anything sex related or ask you 101 questions, but the minute you get them on the phone they have nothing to say and they want to be in control of the conversation as far as what you can ask them or what they are willing to talk about. What do you do when you ask this person a question and they don't answer it and you have to ask the question at least three more times, before they answer you. Who in the hell does bullshit like that. It makes you wonder if they are mentally stable or not? But, at the end of all the games they have played they are still insisting that they want to spend time with you and that they are just busy and it's not because of their sex buddy or that their not into you, they are just busy sometimes. I think that you should move on and count your blessings or if you think this person is really worth it, get them in a corner and lay it all out on the table and let them know where you stand and if they want to be a part of your world they need to start showing it or your moving on to greener pastures. Besides their are plenty of more fish in the see, why waste your time on dead one! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Art of Relaxing!

Relaxing- To rest and take things easy, to become less stressed. Being able to relax and enjoy yourself is the best comfort there probably is. I mean your able to escape to that special place or private getaway, by yourself, with your friends, or with that special someone. You can get a spa treatment, massage, going swimming, skiing, take a cruise, fly around the world or even turn your home into your own private getaway. You can light candles, open a bottle of nice wine, run a hot relaxing bath, some soft music, and top it off with someone to wash your body for you and rub you up and down just right! Then again if your alone, you can just do it all yourself. Relaxing means so many different things to so many people. Some people relax by cleaning their house, doing yard work,working on their car, playing golf or sports of some kind, and others do some form of work. Whatever your technique to relaxing is, do your best to enjoy yourself and have a good time and live a little. And hey, if you chose to do nothing but lay around then you have done your part in the method to relaxing! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Letting Your Guard Down!

Every now and then you come across a person who makes you forget your past. I mean they make you forget the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, and the fact that you no longer trust when it comes to matters of the heart! He or she makes you let down your guard and let go of those walls you have built up between you and the world of love and the game of trust. They put this smile upon your face and a song in your heart, and a pep in your step! You find yourself smiling for no reason and thinking happy and dirty thoughts all at the same time, because for the first time you are beginning to trust again and to fall for this person who has brought you so much joy. Once those guards come down you are able to be free of all the bad things and the bad thoughts and even though you know there is a chance of it happening again, this person has made you want to take the risk, and step out on faith and shout it to the world that you have found yourself and love again. You have been given another chance and there is no way your going to mess it up by keeping those guards up or by stopping love from entering your heart! You are now ready and able and willing to break free and live again and love to the fullest. It just takes that one special person and before you know it your guard has been taken away and placed back on it's shelf where it belongs. Live , Love, Trust, & Enjoy Life. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Happy Monday's!

Monday's are sometimes the worst days! They start off the beginning of the work week and no one ever looks forward to that! I mean it symbolizes that the weekend is over and that we must return to our life of punching a clock, or having someone watch over us, or hell returning to a job where we can't stand the people we work with and they get on our damn nerves! I mean Monday's are seen as the worst, but I look at Monday's as the beginning of my work week and knowing that if I make it through this day then it will be down hill from here. I mean think about It. Monday is making it through, Wednesday is getting over the hump, and Friday means we made it through. So, next time try looking at Monday's as "Happy Monday's". If, you think about it in a positive way it really can be a happy day. This is what I like to call being positive or having happy thoughts, for some it works and for others it is a up hill battle daily to to be a positive person inside and out. So, I say to all of you try taking the high road and learn to be more upbeat and a little less uptight! Random Yours, Raven Storm

Because

I know that you are with me in the night, even in my most trying times.
Because you show me that there is no greater joy or love than that which comes from you.
Knowing how and why you care the way that you do for me, makes me feel so safe and secure inside.
I realize that even when I am being impossible or off in my own world,
your there to catch me when I fall or stumble.
Because you are who you are, I know that in your eyes I shine brightly and
that our time together is special.
It's because of you that I know what real love means and how I'm suppose to be treated.
Because of you I know my worth in gold and no one can take that away from me.
It's because of you that I wake up with a smile on my face and joy in my heart!
Because you let me be me from the start.

Lies and Secrets!

Lies- untruths or made up information or facts; Secrets-information that you wish for no one to know or a set few about your most intimate thoughts or feelings and actions. With that being said many of us have told so many lies, that we don't even know when were telling the truth or not. I mean face it, we lie about why were late, why were out, who we were with, our name, phone number, pretty much anything! Sometimes, there are reasons for lying and lots of times it's better to just tell the truth. But, how many of us would listen to the truth or really want to hear it. If, your friends told you that you were a control freak, or that you throw yourself at men, would you really want to hear that truth? Or is it better when they say you just like order or a routine and that there's nothing wrong with approaching a man first. How about men, would you rather hear her say that you are the best in the bedroom or that she's had better and going to get a paps smear had more feeling or sensation than you. Or, how about your boys saying living at home with your mom is cool at the age of 27, when they really mean your lazy ass should be ashamed and you shouldn't tell anybody that you still live at home with mommy. I mean those are considered nice lies.Then there are secrets that we want to take to the grave and yet we some how manage to tell at least one person. We let this person in on some of the juiciest details and our most private indiscretions and yet we hope that they tell no one. Secrets can be small or big and they can be harmless or detrimental to your inner and outer self. I say if you have any secrets, it's best to take them to your grave and tell no one. Now, if you decide that you can't keep it to yourself, please make sure that they are someone near and dear and that you can really trust them. Now, one thing we must know is that lies and secrets have a way of catching up with us all so be very careful what you do, what you say and who sees and hears you.Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The HangOver!!

What is it about going out and getting totally screwed up that seems fun at the moment, until the Hangover hits you? Well, I had the best time in a long while the other nite and I was on cloud nine. I meet one of my college friends, from when I first started going and I danced the nite away. Now, I went with my best friend and her cousin and the new Caucasian persuasion in her life and he was cool! Not to mention he bought all the drinks. I mean I had 3 shots of something really nice and it was really, really good.But, of course while I was dancing the nite away and being hit on, I didn't realize how truly hungover I was. Well, by the time I got home and woke up at 12 in the afternoon the next day, I was still really hungover and I decided to babysit and realizing that I was calling the kids by the wrong name, made me realize that I was still hungover! I mean damn, it was going on 5pm and my mind and thoughts were still scrambled and I made the decision that I will no longer do that many shots, nor will I babysit when I know damn well I can't remember the kids names. And "FYI" texting and calling people while hungover is not a wise decision. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Education: What Are Kids Really Learning!

In today's society there are so many kids that can't read, write, do simple math, or complete sentences, yet alone speak English. As an educator your required to be mother, father, counselor, priest, and friend to kids who would rather curse you out, skip class, do drugs or drop out all together. I mean think about it, since when did we start allowing kids to come to school dressing like hookers, pimps, thugs, not being able to speak English, wearing ankle monitoring bracelets, and kids who are 21 years old. Meaning that their over grown ass should be in someones military, job placement program, night school, or college. Parents want you to fix their children and teach them, but what happens when your child doesn't want to learn and if they cuss you out and refuse to listen to you, do you think that they are really going to let their teacher tell them what to do? Some teachers are able to reach these kids and save them from themselves, but so many fall through the cracks. Teacher's are being forced or pressured to have kids memorize answers for the CRCT and if the kids don't pass that's your job! Why aren't the parents being held accountable? When I was in school, you got homework with examples and you could bring the book home. Parents checked your homework and teacher's made sure you knew what you were doing. Now a days some teachers are just in it for a paycheck and to pay off their student loans. Parents can't help because they either can't read, can't write, or they work to many jobs and they see it as the teachers job and not theirs. It takes a village to raise a child and if you want your child to be successful, you need to take a more active role in their education and their future. It's not just the teachers job, it's your job and your God given duty to prepare your child for success and the real world. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Therapy: Breaking Down the Walls!

Often times as people we go through things that you could only read or hear about in stories or on the news. Some of us have had or have lived lives that would make you cringe, scare you to death, or even sick to your stomach! Therapy for those of us who are willing to get the help can be very useful and can bring all that pain, anger, and hurt to the surface. It allows you to develop methods to cope with your issues from the past or even present pain in order to become the person you wish or want to be. Therapy also helps you understand your strengths and weakness's as well as ways in which to handle them or to better put them in to perspective. For some no amount of therapy can help or it may even be to little to late! You have to want to get help and admit that something is wrong and know that and realize that everyday is a constant struggle to get a little piece of yourself back. Trust is the key to any successful therapy and tapping into the healing process is the start to the road to uncovering the secrets of your heart, body, mind and soul. Knowing that the walls must be broken down, is really and truly the only way to self recovery. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

What Do You Do When Your Ex Comes Back?

Ex- Someone that you use to be involved with, i.e. wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend. I'm unsure of what to really say on this matter, because I have had an ex come back a few times. Now that I sit and think about it, I should have never taken him back the first time, and certainly not the second time. But, some of us want to believe that our ex has changed or they have learned their lesson or they really love us. When and if your ex comes back, you have to ask yourself is it worth having them in your life? Do they make your life easier, bring you good fortune, help out when you get in a bind or are they cause of you being in a bind. I mean let's face it when there around your luck seems to go from good to worst, they make your life a lot harder than it needs to be and they don't contribute to your overall household. That is God's way of saying that your ex is not the person for you and you need to drop that dead weight. I can't tell you what to do for you or if you should take your ex back, but you should consider a few things: Have they changed, can you see the change, what are they bringing to the table this time, do you feel safe and secure around them, and most importantly can you trust them. These are very important things on your list that you should be able to put a check by and say yes to all of them. If you can't say yes to at least three or more then you should leave that dead weight right where it's at. After all you have moved on to greener pastures and sunny skies and happier days. Sometimes the past needs to stay in the past, in order to allow the future to be right and bright!
Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

When He's Just Not That Into You?

The reason I put a question mark behind this statement is because, what do you do when this happens to you? I mean you like a guy or he gets you interested in him , only to act like he doesn't want to be bothered or that you should be the one doing all the work to get him. I often think to myself who does he think he is or why do I have to ask him to call me or be the one to text first, or even be the one to start up conversation. If you find yourself doing this, then he's just not that into you or he must be an ass or a selfish jerk. It's funny how men say that they want a good woman who listens, cooks, cleans,can be submissive, and who is supportive, but then when one comes there way they push you to the side for the freak or the one with the messed up attitude, bangin body and who treats them like crap. Basically they settle for the 20% woman, when they could have had the 80% woman who is like the shero who can do it all and have their back through good and bad times. Let's be realistic it hurts when they don't return the feelings or when they turn them off and start to act funny towards you. All of a sudden you now feel like you have been thrown under the bus and this man is looking at you like you have the plague or like you have offended him or why would he want to talk to the likes of you! If you have ever had this happen you may feel like never opening up to another man again or like putting the walls back up, but don't. Look at it as a lesson learned and your pride bruised a bit, but knowing that you can bounce back from it and that God has your best interests at heart you will be okay.It's his loss and you know what your worth is, it's more than doing all the work and making it easy for him. After all the man is suppose to pursue the woman and make her want him. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Adventures In Babysitting!

Babysitting- The process of watching children or taking care of someone else's. Now many of us have done some form of babysitting, whether we have gotten paid for it or not. I mean we have watched our siblings, cousins, the neighbors kids, and even our friends kids. But, what about when we get older and because we work with kids or were good with them people assume that we love to be around them all the time. Well, that is not the case for some of us, hell for most of us. Let's break it down, if you don't like your kids then why the hell would anyone else like them. If your kids are bad as hell, why would you assume that someone wants to watch them and watch them for free at that! If you spend half your day yelling at your kids or they make you want to drink, a babysitter is not the answer for you, therapy is! Babysitting requires enjoying kids, liking them, wanting to be around them and actually wanting to take care of them. I think that as a babysitter you should follow the code of the late and great Bernie Mac" Busta them open to the white meat" Punchem dead in the throat" when they get smart or talk back, and "beat the hell out them just because sometimes to reinforce that you don't play". If we follow these simple rules one or two things will happen: Either you will be arrested or your child will be so afraid of you that you have nothing to worry about. In babysitting make sure the child is one that you like, that you enjoy babysitting, and that you are allowed to beat the hell out them if needed, and never ever keep a child that you are not allowed to put your hands on. Babysitting rule number one never keep a child that you can't beat! As for me I only take care of kids that I can put my hands on and one's that I like. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Joy Of Summer!

Summer time is one the most anticipated seasons of the year! We look forward to the pool being opened, being able to wear our short skirts, tight shorts, swimsuits, and the cookout's that bring us the best memories of this special time of year. It's funny how all the woes and worries of the day can be easily be fixed by a dip in the pool, a trip to the ice cream shop, a nice long summer vacation to the beach or theme park. Summer allows for you to do so much more with your friends and family member's that the winter and fall at times prevents. I mean you can stay outside longer and play, the theme parks are now open, summer movies are a plus, and the sales they have on summer gear or lack there of is amazing ! This is the time when we meet and fall in love, even if only for the summer time and we take that leap of faith of kicking back our heels and throwing caution to the wind. The joy of summer helps you to understand how important it is to take time to be with your loved ones and take a break and just be free sometimes. Next time, the summer rolls around make plans to take a few trips here and there with your family and with your friends or that special someone who makes you smile from ear to ear and who brings out the best in you! I have enjoyed my summer of relaxing and not having to go to work for two months, and being able to spend it with my family and friends. I can't wait til the next summer, which I plan to make it the best one yet. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Fork In The Road: Which Path Do We Take?

In Life their are twist and turns and curves in the road that have us questioning our choices and the decisions that we make. We are taught at a young age that you go to school, graduate, attend college or the military and make a life for yourself. Were told that in order to be a success you have to have a college degree, which is the gate keeper to all our problems and the answer. In truth or theory that is farthest from reality! I mean an education is extremely important and vital to your future, but it's not the answer. You have so many options now to choose from that just by taking continuing education classes, going to technical school, or even the military and on the job training can ensure a successful future as well. Many times as parents, counselors and mentors we don't always tell our children the truth about education. If you are a below average student or one who really does not do well in school, then college may not be the place for you, or if you don't feel that the military is the road to discovery, then maybe technical school or on the job training is the fit for you. You have to know your strengths and your weakness's in order to know the path that is right for you. Why spend several years in college, to never finish or waste your parents money, or why join the military only to be kicked out for not conforming to the man! I mean in the end you do what makes you happy and enjoy your career path, whatever it may be and live your life to the fullest. Remember there are no do overs in life and you only live once. Carpi Diem( Cease the Day). Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

When Your Afraid To Fall In Love!

What is it about being in love or falling in love that makes us go crazy or say and do some of the stupidest things! I mean when you meet the person that makes you smile uncontrollably, they make you nervous, and crazy all at the same time. I mean you find yourself smiling and thinking about them out of the blue or you have the best dream about you and them together! It's like waking up on Christmas Day and getting all the presents on your list. Being in love is one of the best feelings their is and it puts you in this place where nothing or no one can make you feel bad or sad about yourself or your life, because you have that special someone in your corner. But, when that love is taken away and your heart is broken by that special someone you start to build walls around your heart and yourself. You no longer trust and you feel ashamed and hurt by love! You wanna let someone in again and you wanna start giving of yourself and your heart, but your thinking in the back of your mind are they going to use me like the last, cheat on me like the last, hurt my heart and spirit like the last love. At this point your so afraid to love or trust love again that you shut yourself off or tell yourself I don't need anyone, I have my friends, my kids, my hobbies, my work, and I got the good book, so I don't need anyone in my life. That would be a lie, and a bad one at that. No one wants to be hurt or shaken by love, but it does happen and it's hard to let love back into your heart and to not think that it will tear you apart again. I should know, I have had it happen to me and I don't trust, I am scared a lot that it will happen again and I have so much love to give, but I want it to go to the right person. Someone who will appreciate me and the way I love them, care for them, stand by them, listen to them, be supportive of them, and just knowing that I am there good or bad times. Knowing that this person loves me and only me and is there for me in the same ways I am for them. That they shower me with their love, surprise me, cater to me, listen to my needs, share in my success's and support my changes what ever they may be. I know in my heart that their is someone out their who will give me this and more, I just have to let love in and except what comes next! Let go and let God. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Women: Does Size Matter?

Hello ladies! I had a conversation with a guy friend of mine, and he asked me does size matter? Now, when he asked me this I wanted to say hell yeah size matter and what kind of question is that to ask? I mean, if you have to ask then maybe your not toting enough hosiery down there. Now all jokes aside, I explained to him that women look past a lot but that when it comes to the bedroom their are some things we will not make an exception for. And size is one of them, I mean come on you want a man that has the tools and can use them as well. I mean the average woman wants a man with at least 7 inches and the max at maybe 9inches(width included). That's a good fit and your able to enjoy and be spanked & thank all at the same time. Of course we may occasionally allow for the 10 or 11 incher, but that's very rare indeed. And who wants a man with a 4 to 5 incher, that feels like someone is scratching you or tickling you! I mean that will only make us mad and then we will make you really, really sad,and think before you ever decide to drop your pants and try to get some of our cookie, the nook-nook, the dessert or any other women for that matter. So to answer my friends question, yes size does really matter and just because you have the tools does not mean you know how to use them. On that note, I say men brush up on your skills, know what your working with, and approach women who will accept and respect the gift that you may or may not have! And remember that sex to us is more than just physical, it's emotionally, mental, and spiritual; with the exception of the distasteful women out there that want nothing other than a quick fix. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Sex In The Work Place?

Sex in the work place happens more often that we think! Think about it, when you work closely in tight quarters or in close areas with your co-workers be they married or not an attraction develops. Then one day while at work, you start to talk about sexual relationships and problems at home and before you know it, your seeing one another outside the job, on the job, and in the job. Then the sex begins, the fun starts, the butterflies in your stomach, your feeling good and then the unthinkable happens, you break-up and everyone knows about, including your partner that you were cheating on. Now your coming to the job arguing with one another, not speaking to each other, acting all psychotic because now your office romance has turned into a sexual nightmare. Everyone sees you as the office home wrecker and or slut, tramp, lonely person and he walks away with the title of "typical man" or "trifling ass". Having sex with your co-workers is never a wise idea and is a definite no, no, if they are married! It can only lead to disaster and one or both of you being fired! Is getting a little piece at the work place worth losing your family and your job over? Is it worth being labeled a tramp, trifling man, losing the respect of your colleagues and your dignity. Next time you wanna get a piece on the side at your job, think about whether or not it's worth losing everything for? Your life, your career and your self worth. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Church: Food For The Soul!

Going to church is food for the soul that keeps you feed on the word of God. There's something about being in the house of the lord that makes you feel good inside, makes you feel safe and loved all at the same time. So many times we fall astray and loose our way, and find ourselves on a path that leads to misery and loneliness. We start off going to church getting the blessings from God and then once we get what we want, then we stop going! Now that's when trouble and the Devil begin to move in and stir things up inside. Were no longer doing God's will, we are now lying, stealing, cheating, cursing out any and everyone and blaming God for our misfortunes. God wants all of his children to be blessed and to know his love and mercy. He wants us to get the word, which is food for our soul. God wants us to know that he never leaves us, it's us who leaves him and if we stay in the word and continue to pray and trust in him, he will take care of all our troubles and needs. The lord says " lean not to thine own understanding and in all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy path". Let go and let God, that statement is easier said than done for some of us. But if you really believe in him and trust in him it so easy to let go and give it to God. So,when your walking around stressed out about this bill or that bill, your relationships, your job, your family and your health, just remember to trust in him and know that talking to him and going to church and receiving the word is food for the soul.Know that through Christ all things are possible. If he leads you to it, the lord will bring you through it. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Living Alone: Is it for you?

Many of us have spent the better part of our adulthood looking and searching for that one true person. The one with whom we are suppose to spend our lives with, build that magical life together, and start a family. We spend so much time focusing on having someone by our sides, that we loose sight of the rest of life. Then once we find that person and we go through the honeymoon phase of complete bliss, then the comfortable phase where we can walk around naked or fart around our mate, to the need some time apart phase or as I like to call it the divorce phase, where you can't stand one another, they get on your nerves, you have had thoughts of pushing them down the stairs, poisoning them, or even choking them in their sleep.Now your at the low point and you feel the need to be alone. You have no intentions of dating again or falling in love anymore and if one more person tries to fix you up, your go to shoot them! Now being alone has perks, like you don't have to consider someone else's feelings, you can pick the movie, the place to eat and you can focus on your needs instead of there's. But what happens when you've been alone now for months, which has now turned into years and you have started to enjoy living like this? It's not okay to be alone with no companion of some kind and just because you have been hurt a few times or many times doesn't mean that you turn yourself into a nun or a monk. Taking time off from dating is normal, but damn taking a retirement from dating is not okay, nor is it healthy. How do you expect to meet someone and get over the hurt or pain, if you stay locked or hidden from the world. Your heart may have been broken, your pride pushed to the side, but you have to realize that in relationships their are ups and downs and storms that come and go, but at the end of it all you are still standing. Don't let the idea of living alone feel like it's your only option or the only way way to keep from being hurt. The Lord takes people out of your life for a reason and he places them in your life for a reason as well. Just know that your worth more than a life of living alone and that it's their lost for not realizing how special you truly are. And, hey they always come back, whether you want them to or not! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Road To Recovery

Recovery: To get back something that has been lost or stolen. Often we find ourselves in the predicament of letting go of our old life and accepting our new one. It's hard to get that monkey off our backs called the night life, friends who still smoke weed, drink all day everyday, cheat on their partners, don't pay their bills or still live at home with their mama. We seem to think that we have lost something by not hanging out with these dead beats! I mean now you are living your life right, going to church, staying out of the clubs, no more lying or cheating, and we now have our priorities together. But, it's something about our past that tries to hold us back and prevent us from being happy and having our blessings. Sometimes, what's holding us back is ourselves or friends and families members that liked us better when we were living our lives without purpose. The road to recovery is one that has many twist and turns, and hills and mountains to climb. In order to really let go of our past and head to that road call recovery we have to let go of that dead weight called friends and family members who don't want you to succeed, ex's who keep poppin up trying to mess up our blessings from God. The road to recovery can be long , hard, and sometimes lonely but if we have a good support system and lean on the Lord we will come through it on top and with a renewed spirit and a new outlook on life.

Mentoring! Is It Really For You?

Mentor: A person looked upon for wise advice and guidance. In order to be a mentor one should be able to have some years of work history and everyday life experiences. Being a mentor is a huge responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly. You are in a position to mold and shape young minds, ideas, thoughts, and how they view the world. If you give them the wrong tools or guide them down the wrong path, all could be lost forever! As a mentor you must choose how you present yourself, convey your ideas and thoughts, and the way in which you package your every step from beginning to end. In this role you are being watched by all, but most importantly by the your protege or mentee and one wrong move or slip of the tongue and all could be undone. I mean you have to choose your words carefully and pick your battles wisely, because they are watching you and looking to you for the tools to lead and succeed. If you take role as a mentor seriously, then your protege or mentee will get what they need from you and he or she will be ready for the world outside of elementary, middle school, and high school. A young mind is a terrible thing to waste, so take your role of being a mentor seriously and make sure it is really for you. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Back To School Again!

It's that time of year again! Time for the kiddies to go back to school and parents to return to work or cease vacations. If your like most parents, your glad as hell that your little crumb snatchers or your friends or family members crumb snatchers are returning to school. Now you might be able to keep some food in the fridge and not have to see anymore of your children's friends come over, amen. Or hear them ask what are we doing today, where are we going, i'm so bored, blah, blah, blah! Also, now is the time to get your kids motivated for the new school year and to get involved in some extra curricular activities. I.E. one's that keep them at school a little longer to help you keep your electric bill down, phone bill down, food bill lower and water bill in check. Now you will be able to get back to a normal schedule again and have some order in your daily routine for yet another 180 days, give or take a few. The kids will prepare to ride the twinkie, where the windows may not work, the air may or may not work, and they get stuck sitting next to someone who picks their nose and eats it(how gross)! Let's not forget for us parents the schools have found new ways to make us spend more money, that we don't have. They have added new supplies to the list or one's that you can only purchase through their school. Or how about wearing uniforms and having certain book bags or shirts and pants that they can or can't wear. As parents we have to make changes as well. Getting the kids back to school requires some adjustments and making sure they get the proper sleep, and eating the right foods for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Making sure they are properly prepared for the school day, will ensure them the right start from the start! So this school year let's be proactive, productive, involved, and a driving force behind our child's success in education. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Your Boss: Nightmare or Saint?

Hello everyone! How many of you have the boss from hell? The boss who takes credit for your hard work, your ideas, you stay late and they don't or you get cards for the office birthday's and they pretend it was all them. This would be the boss that's a complete nightmare! I mean think about it, you know more than them, they can't function without you, yet they take credit for all you do and they treat you like crap. When you need time off, they ask you a 1,000 damn questions but when there not at work your suppose to cover for them or pick up the slack on their work load. Hell no! Then at Christmas they short change you on your gift, your time off, and your damn bonus. That is the boss who's a waking breathing nightmare! Now some of us have the boss that is a true saint. I mean they remember your birthday, kids special moments, your years on the job, understand when your late, doesn't mind giving you time off and shares in the credit or gives you all the credit in work getting done. You guys can share a laugh, a drink, and maybe even dinner. Truth be told a lot of us have more boss's that are walking nightmares, than we do boss's that are saints. I think the best way to deal with either one is to just cover your tracks, document, document, and do what your suppose to do. Know your place and stay in it, and when it's time to shine or leave you will be better for it and better prepared. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

The Grass Isn't Always Greener!

So many times we think that things would only be better if we had a nicer home, better job, happy relationship, dependable friends and family, or if life just gave us what we wanted at all times. Once reality sets in we realize that's not how it works and God takes you through the struggle for a reason. Now some of us struggle more than others and never get the blessings that he has in store for us or we take the blessings for granted. Is getting a better job or a happier relationship or nicer home going to fix all your problems? Not if your the problem and your taking the same issues, drama, and lugging it to the new house, new job or new relationship. Sometimes we have to look within ourselves and see what can we do to fix the situation or how can we better ourselves and keep from bringing that old baggage to new areas of our life. Every now and again it really was the job, the house, or the relationship. But for the most part it was you, yourself and you alone to blame for what happened and no one else. Stop always pointing the finger and look at how you can make this better or how we can work to get it better or back to the way it was. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, and a lot of times we jump from one frying pan to one that is even hotter than the last. Find ways to improve your relationships be they personal, work or with yourself and know that if you work together and trust in the Lord you can make it through any situation that comes your way. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm!

The Enemy Within: Do You Really Know Your Mate?

Enemy: Someone who hates and wants to harm or destroy another. What happens when we think we know the person that sleeps beside us? When the day comes that this person puts their hands on you, calls you names, makes you feel like crap, has you second guessing yourself and not even trusting your own judgement. He or she makes you think that you are a bad parent and a horrible friend all in the same sentence. They tear you down just to build you back up. I mean your self esteem is shot, you look at yourself as if your not good enough to love, your not smart enough, and that you deserve the way they have treated you. Now your sleeping with the enemy and it doesn't feel good or safe. What do you do? Do you stay? Do you fight? Do you end the relationship or do you work it out? If you stay, you run the risk of the abuse happening again. If you fight your both going to jail, only if you get caught though. If you end the relationship then you wonder whether or not you should have tried to work it out or if they would change, could change or even wanted to change. If this has never happened to you, then it's hard to be on the outside looking in and say what you would or wouldn't do. I mean you fight or flight: Meaning you either stay or you leave. Only you can say when enough is enough and only you know when your really and truly ready to move on with your life. Once you make that decision they no longer have that power over you and they can longer take your joy away from you. Remember that abuse can be emotional, mental, verbal, and physical. Never let anyone tell you that just because it was mental, verbal, or emotional it wasn't abuse. Abuse is abuse and it's wrong no matter who's doing the abusing(male or female). I'm Raven Storm and I have no intentions of sleeping with the enemy anymore! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm!

Parenting: What Kind Are You?

When I think of the type of parent I am and the one I strive to be everyday, I think that I have come pretty close to being a good mother. I try to listen to my kids concerning their interests, their thoughts and feelings about whatever is going on in their lives. Our house is 75% dictatorship and 25% democracy. I give them the chance to explain what happened or speak their peace on certain subjects or if they feel like explaining will make a difference in their punishment. But, at the end of every conversation I am the Judge, Juror, and Executioner. So if you gonna get beat down, then it's coming! Now when I say beat down, I mean a whipping and not one with my fist, my hands, or objects I find lying around that's abuse. I also believe in telling my children how beautiful, handsome, how smart they are, and that they can be anything in life they want to be. You must give your kids positive encouragement and let them know you love them. If you don't, then they will seek the attention somewhere else and before you know it they are in gangs, on drugs, being abused by some man or pregnant or drop out of school. And then your asking yourself what happened? Parents stop treating your eldest child like their the live in babysitter or it's their job to keep up will all their siblings. Hell they didn't lay down and have any damn kids, your ass did. So realize and recognize that they are kids too! And although it's okay for them to help out with their younger siblings from time to time, it's still your job to get up off your butt and watch your kids, all of them. Also, stop calling your kids stupid, dumb, or saying that you don't like them or you can't wait for them to leave.Your only tearing them down and making them feel like their worthless, no one wants them, or they can't do anything right. Stop treating one child better than the other one and acting like you love them less. These acts and sayings will all lead to insecure, troubled, bitter, angry, attention starved adults. Treat your kids they you want to be treated or the way you wish your parent or parents treated you. Remember that one day they may have to take care of you and payback can be brutal.Love and be thankful for your kids everyday good and bad. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Time:Never Enough Of It!

How many times have we been rushed or pulled in multiple directions, only to realize that we can't do it all and there is just not enough time in the day to do all that we need or want to do. I mean we sign up for this, we are asked to do that, then we are volunteered to do something else, and before you know it you have no time for yourself or for life's little treasures or stolen moments. Today was one of those days, for me. We are hosting our Family Reunion here and I always post a new blog everyday, and today because there was not enough time I missed my posting and I was so upset. But, I had to realize what was truly important and spending time with family seemed just a little more important to me. So this time I will make two post to makeup for the one I missed yesterday! I just want to remind everyone to balance their time wisely and make sure that whoever or whatever your spending time on is well worth it, because once it's gone you can't get that time back. I say this to say that life is too short and "faith without works is dead". You have to spend time with your family, your friends and know that you only get once chance to really let them know how much they mean to you and to show them that your time is available to them and for them as well!

Getting Organized!

Often we tend to get cluttered and backlog in both our professional and personal lives. We have to get ourselves together mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Once we start to get those things in order, we can start to remove that clutter in our closets, in our hearts, our minds, and in our work. It's always hard at first to begin to remove the old in order to make room for the new, but in order to grow and be blessed one must get rid of that dead weight, the stress, and the burdens from the past. If we are to enjoy the fruits of our labor or our love, we have to remove the clutter and wash ourselves clean and start anew. Some may say it's hard to start over and others may say it's so easy, but in reality if you want to move on and truly begin anew and have all that he has in store for, then you will let go and let "God". Randomly Yours, Raven Storm.

Rainy Days!

Rainy Days are the best! You can lounge around, sleep in late, eat junk food or health food which ever is your choice! But it's something about rainy days that makes you daydream, think about what's really bothering you or some of the things that you really need to catch up on. I love the rain because it makes me feel clean all over, as if the day has set aside a time just for me to ponder life's little treasures. Every now and again we should all be thankful for the rainy days, which allows us to slow down, smell the roses, take time to enjoy the companies of friends and family and just go at a normal pace, if even for just a moment. So, while we love our life and routines and the everyday meetings, classes, homework, parties, and hustling we all can you use a rainy day here or there just to be reminded that their are other things more important like living life. In the long one rainy days are here to make us be thankful for those moments that we are allowed to steal for ourselves. So, hey live a little and it's okay to slow down sometimes. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm!

Struggling: Borrowing from Peter to Pay Paul!

How many times have we been in the process of getting caught up on bills, only to find out that we are now still behind. We never have enough money to cover gas, electric, cable, food, insurance, car note and medical bills. So we borrow from Peter to pay Paul by doing so, we put $50 on the gas, $100 on the electric, $85 on the cable and half on everything else. So we in turn are borrowing from one bill to pay another or from one credit card to the next. When you borrow from people to pay someone else back and you know you have no intention on paying any of them back, then you are no longer borrowing from Peter to pay Paul. You are now stealing from your friends and family members. So with that being said, don't borrow if you know you can't pay it back, or they tell you not to worry about or just ask can you have the money. In the long run, you will better off for it and you will keep your lenders in tack and your relationships will survive those moments of struggle. Just know that times are hard for everyone and we all have periods where we borrow from Peter to pay Paul, just realize that at some point we have to budget, get a second job and get up off our butts and take care of our lives and our households. And know that borrowing is only a temporary fix, not a permanent solution. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Education: Is It The Marriage for You?

Education now days requires a 4 to 8 year commitment and for some of us that is way to long to start making money, or moving out of mom's and dad's place. Their are some careers that take less time than that, such as being a court reporter,phlebotomy, nursing assistant, and their are a whole list of Continuing Education Classes that allow you to make $15-$25 and hour just to start.You have to figure out what works best for you and maybe going into the Military is the ticket. I truly think you should do what makes you happy and what you are truly passionate about. My mother said to me that she learned to like and enjoy her job and it pays the bills, but she does her passion on the side. I said to her why can't I do what I love and my passion everyday? I have no desire to learn to love or like a job, then that means that I am just existing and I want to do more than exist. I realize that I need to start making money soon and now that I know what I want to do, no one can steal my thunder or my joy and I am ready for all that God has in store for me. I truly believe that you must have some type of Education,Job Training,Military Experience in order to make it in this world. And for those of us who are able to make it in Acting,Modeling,Sports you have been blessed with natural talent. So next time think about the Marriage of Education? Is it for you? Are you doing it for your family? Or is it what you truly want? I say do what makes you happiest with yourself at the end of the day and love what you do from the start! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Betrayal!

In the Dictionary betrayal means: to not be loyal to a person or do something to hurt him or her.
How many times have you or someone you've known betrayed a friend, a loved one, a co-worker or your partner? When that person found out how did it make you feel inside? Did you feel relieved that the betrayal was finally out or did you feel that now the relationship was over and now what do you do? The betrayer either feels bad or they don't, but for the person that has been betrayed it is pure hell. You feel alone, confused, as if somehow it was your fault. Your turned inside out. It feels like complete darkness, because they knew and their friends and family knew what was going on but you were the last to know. It makes you not want to trust, to love or be loved again and then you start to question your own judgement, your own sanity and whether or not your worthy anymore! That's no way to feel, but once you've been betrayed, it's hard to come back from that and even more important it's hard to give of yourself, your love, your time, your trust, and your heart. Do you forgive that person or do you hold on to it? But, there is light at the end of the betrayal tunnel. Surround yourself with true friends, honest co-worker's, positive and loving family member's, and take it nice and slow when you decide to give of yourself, your heart, your trust and your time again. Whether it's with the same person or with someone new. Start out by saying that God has my best interest at heart and he will lead the perfect person to me and put the right people in my corner. Just let go and let God! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm

Forgiveness!

This is a word that is hard for a lot of people. Forgiveness is a two way street and often we tend to get off that road, and turn onto the road of blame. No one wants to forget the past hurts, the broken promises, the missed anniversaries, the time apart, or the arguments and of course the fights. But forgiving a person frees you from what they did or said and allows you to move forward with your life and the blessings God has in store for you. When we refuse to forgive or let go, we have given the power to whoever it was that hurt us and keeps you stuck in that moment. It's easier said than done, but once you forgive a person it makes you feel so much lighter inside and your heart is no longer heavy. You feel this amazing peace and joy within yourself and your now able to sing a new song and begin to live life again. So next time you get on that road of blame, try really hard to get back to the road of forgiveness. You'll live longer and be happier for it! Randomly Yours, Raven Storm...

Love~

Learning Our Values Everyday= Love. In this crazy world we live in it's sometimes easy to forget the values that we were raised with or how to treat others and how to love ourselves. Day by day we go through our routine of running errands, football, soccer, and baseball practices, dance classes, working out, going to church, hanging with friends and family. But, what happens when we forget to love each other faults and all everyday in every way. What about telling one another that we love them and showing them through our actions that we support and stand by them in the good times and bad times. Staying true to the values of loving thy neighbor, honoring and obeying our spouses, treating one another with kindness and seeing the good in all no matter what. It's sometimes hard to follow the values of "Love", but the lesson in love is so rewarding and the end result is truly amazing. So take the time really to be thankful for all that the Lord has blessed you with and tell someone or show them how much you truly love them. Randomly yours, Raven Storm!

Healing!

When is it okay to let go or say goodbye to someone or something? I mean when do we truly as people know in our hearts of hearts when it is time to end a relationship, friendship, another job, or to start another chapter in our lives. Is it when people tell us that we should move on, is it when you see your life passing you by, or does it just hit you all of a sudden one day when you look back in your yearbooks, or through pictures from college, past reunions, or through prayer from the good "Lord" above. I just know that when it hits you, you begin to wake up and you begin to clear that clutter out of your life called relationships and you take the steps to getting yourself back and healing yourself from the inside out and then it begins to manifest to the outside. Healing should be done on your terms and when your ready to really see yourself for the mistakes that you made and the roles that you played in your relationships be they personal or professional coming to an end or changing for the better or for the worse. Once your willing to accept that, then your truly ready to heal.

What is Security?

Security to some can be many different things. For some of us it's knowing that the bills are paid on time, rent is taken care of, our job is safe, we got that promotion, our marriage is doing well, the kids are adjusting and we are living the dream. For others it can mean no one finding out about their cheating spouse, terrible kids, bills being past due, medication were taking for health issues or depression or even the fact that we may lose our job at any moment. Security is a word that can mean a many of things, but to me it's means having someone that I can count on, a partner that is there through the good and bad times, having a job that I love and kids that aren't perfect and friends who can be loud at times, but who bring me joy. A family that I can turn to when times are rough and knowing that if I slip or fall my friends, family, and my partner are there for me and my kids to bring back to reality and to let me know that life has bumps and bruises, it's just how we handle those little bumps and bruises. So what is Security to you? I'm Raven Storm and these are my random thoughts! Life is love

Trying Something New!

Hello Everyone! How many times have you thought about trying something new? A new job, moving to a new city, buying a new car, dating someone out of your comfort zone, or becoming friends with a person no one likes, only to be told by family members or friends that you shouldn't do that or won't you be scared or feel alone. Stop letting fear, friends, and family keep you from doing what makes you happy and start living your life. Step out on faith and know that God has your back and he will guide you into some of the most wonderful adventures and take you to some of the most exotic places and allow you to meet the most interesting people around, only if you trust in him and believe in yourself. I have allowed fear and family to rule my life for so long, that I have no idea where to begin my adventure. But one thing I do know is that fear and family will no longer keep me from trying new things and meeting new faces or going to different places. As of today, I will start to live my life for me and as always let God be my guide and my support system. Cease the day and take charge of your life, your dreams and all your hearts desires. I'm Raven Storm and these are my random thoughts! Until next time "life is love"

Family!

Family can always surprise you at any given moment. They are there when you need them and sometimes you can't find them or count on them to be in your corner. But at the end of the day, they are your family. Whether they are ex-cons, liars, lawyers, doctors, teachers, preachers, laborers, etc, you are stuck with them. Now you can see that as a positive or a negative. I tend to take the high road and just be thankful that hey I have a family, there not perfect but their mine! In saying that my family reunion is approaching and on the 29th of July it will be here and I have all those characters I listed above in my family and then some. I always look forward to seeing my family members and I truly accept their special qualities, because that's what makes us all unique. Lord knows I have my own crosses to bear! I mean I have never stolen from anyone, cheated on, been arrested, did drugs other than the drinks I have every now and then. But I still have my crosses to bear. So next time you think about your family and how they may make you feel ashamed or upset or whatever, just be thankful that you have them at the end of the day. Because family can always surprise you! The cousin or aunt or uncle that was never there can show up just in time to save your ass when you least expect it. So embrace, love , share and be thankful for your screwed up family because every one's family is just as screwed as yours if not worse. These are the random thoughts of raven storm, til next time.

Why do People Cheat and Lie?

I have never understood, when a man or woman has a good person they choose to mess it up with lies and cheating. Do they not understand that the grass isn't always greener on the otherside. How about how it makes the other person feel when they find out about the indiscretion? He or she begins to feel as if they have done something wrong or it's some how their fault that their intended was a liar and a cheater. Where do you go from the cheating and the lying? How do put yourself back together again, after you've been broken? Some say therapy, some say church, guy bashing or girl bashing. I truly feel that you have to choose your own path and your way of healing. Sometimes just being alone with your thoughts and a bottle of wine works best and then again the feeling of family and friends can be very comforting too! I'm Raven Storm and these are my Random thoughts!!