Parenting: What Kind Are You?

When I think of the type of parent I am and the one I strive to be everyday, I think that I have come pretty close to being a good mother. I try to listen to my kids concerning their interests, their thoughts and feelings about whatever is going on in their lives. Our house is 75% dictatorship and 25% democracy. I give them the chance to explain what happened or speak their peace on certain subjects or if they feel like explaining will make a difference in their punishment. But, at the end of every conversation I am the Judge, Juror, and Executioner. So if you gonna get beat down, then it's coming! Now when I say beat down, I mean a whipping and not one with my fist, my hands, or objects I find lying around that's abuse. I also believe in telling my children how beautiful, handsome, how smart they are, and that they can be anything in life they want to be. You must give your kids positive encouragement and let them know you love them. If you don't, then they will seek the attention somewhere else and before you know it they are in gangs, on drugs, being abused by some man or pregnant or drop out of school. And then your asking yourself what happened? Parents stop treating your eldest child like their the live in babysitter or it's their job to keep up will all their siblings. Hell they didn't lay down and have any damn kids, your ass did. So realize and recognize that they are kids too! And although it's okay for them to help out with their younger siblings from time to time, it's still your job to get up off your butt and watch your kids, all of them. Also, stop calling your kids stupid, dumb, or saying that you don't like them or you can't wait for them to leave.Your only tearing them down and making them feel like their worthless, no one wants them, or they can't do anything right. Stop treating one child better than the other one and acting like you love them less. These acts and sayings will all lead to insecure, troubled, bitter, angry, attention starved adults. Treat your kids they you want to be treated or the way you wish your parent or parents treated you. Remember that one day they may have to take care of you and payback can be brutal.Love and be thankful for your kids everyday good and bad. Randomly Yours, Raven Storm